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Is your gut feeling useful or not?

Gut Feeling

Is your gut feeling useful or not?

A lot of people talk about their gut feeling and how useful it is. We’ve all had experiences where we feel, “Yes, I’m going to that,” or “No, I’m not going to do that,” and it’s turned out to be right.

My perspective on this is that it’s not always aright.

Your gut feeling is about what lies outside your conscious awareness. Your brain is constantly sensing, hearing, observing along with running your body, storing your memories etc. It is constantly taking things in, at any given moment.

In this week’s video I discuss how you get that gut feeling, what influences it and whether it’s likely to be accurate or not.  Watch the video and think about what influences your gut feeling and whether it’s useful or not.

There are some key influences on our “gut feeling.”

  1. Firstly, our neurons that are involved with taking action light up whether you are taking the action or someone else. It’s called a mirror system and that forms part of the intuition. So if someone does something it’s almost like we are doing it and that helps with that gut feeling.
  2. Another influence is our past experience.  If you have relevant experience and you get that gut feeling and you make that decision quickly, in the spur of the moment, then that is likely to be quite accurate. However, if you haven’t got relevant experience, you’ll take longer to think about something and work out what you feel about it  and that’s less likely to be accurate.
  3. Thirdly, if you’ve had past experiences that haven’t been particularly pleasant and you are getting dragged back to those experiences regularly then when you come to make a quick decision you might rely on that past experience and that may not be helpful.

Have a little think about when you use your  feeling and work out what influences it and whether it’s useful or not to you in a particular situation.

If you’d like to find out a little more about how your unconscious mind influences you, and use it to go forward and be the person you want to be then book an appointment here. My phone number is 07973 635102 if you want to access a free half hour with me or you can book it on the above link.

See you next week

Dr Bridget – helping you to refine your gut instinct

 

How to Make your Unconscious Behaviours Conscious

Unconscious behaviours

Unconscious behaviours

Hello – I’m wondering if you are aware that most of behaviours are unconscious? Also our emotions are created by our unconscious mind- it’s difficult to be sad just by deciding to be.

Moving on from this we can accept that our unconscious behaviours will either get us the result that we want or one that we don’t want. So if we make our unconscious behaviours conscious, then we can start to notice patterns and change them consciously

Have a watch of the video and then reflect below:

 Behaviours that are often an issue for people include:

  • Procrastination
  • Avoidance
  • Anxiety
  • Doubt
  • Hiding
  • Distracting

And many more

In my book, Mindset for Business Success, one of the techniques I suggest as a time management tool will help to make our behaviours conscious.

  • List everything  (and I mean everything) that you do for a whole day.
  • Go through the list when you have finished and think about your goal. Work out which are helpful and which aren’t helpful.
  • Notice any patterns that are helpful or not helpful
  • Raise your awareness until your unconscious behaviours are conscious
  • Repeat weekly until you are consciously aware of what is happening

If you have anything going on in  your behaviour that is not useful and you can’t resolve it, get in touch! It takes 63 days to resolve a minor habit or pattern consciously but if you work with your unconscious mind, it takes less than an hour. If the pattern is a deep emotional pattern, it is also easy to rewire that thinking, so get in touch. My 1:1 coaching and my NLP training are both very effective.

Until next week

Dr Bridget – helping you work with your unconscious mind

Using Your Brain to Change your Internal Picture

Changing your Internal Picture using your Brain

Brain

Using your brain

Hello!

We create our reality from the vast amount of information that comes into our senses using filters and end up with an internal picture of what’s going on. The filters include our experiences and memories, our values and our beliefs amongst other things.  The resulting picture consists of things that are visual auditory and kinaesthetic (feelings) mainly. This “picture” creates our emotional state, changes our physiology and creates behaviours and therefore results. And this is sometimes useful and sometimes not.

I recently had a client who felt very angry in a specific situation and couldn’t get past that anger and when I asked her where the picture was – it was right in front of her, so no wonder she couldn’t get past it. Our brain has created that picture and store it unconsciously and therefore can easily change that picture by changing the components of the picture.

Have a watch of the video and then follow the instructions below in the blog to change any picture you have in your head that is unhelpful.

So there are a couple of things you can do to change the picture – well there are many – but I’m going to give you a couple:

  1. With the lady with the anger, I sent her a set of comic angry people which made her laugh and she decided to use one of those pictures instead of the one she had created.
  2. I ask this question – it’s a very specific one. “When you think of that situation or person, do you have a picture?” Precise wording is important. My client said it was straight in front of her. I then asked her to move that picture to the left hand side of her. Her emotional state changed when she did that becuse the  meaning of the picture had changed because the location had changed. You can also “throw” the picture behind your body. Your unconscious mind then cannot see the picture and therefore again the state changes

So next time when you have a picture in your head that is unuseful or bothers you say to yourself:

“When  you think about the person or situation – do you have a picture?”

Then put your hand where it is and move picture to left hand side – no picture will be there when  you think about it then. Or throw picture behing you – it’s then not there.

This is an easy way to reduce negative emotions and it may be useful for you in getting your goals if there are things stopping you.

If it doesn’t help, contact me to let me know.

These skills are taught on my NLP courses and in 1:1 coaching so have a look at the options and let me know if you want to start the conversation.

Til next week,

Dr Bridget – helping you use your brain to change your life!

Taking Things Personally

Taking things personally

Taking things personally

Eavesdropping

You know that your unconscious mind is like a sponge – soaking everything up, and taking everything personally, don’t you?

Well this can be useful or not useful. Useful in the sense that you can react to other people’s ideas and learn and make changes as a result. This happens in a mastermind group – the power of the collective mind.

On the other hand, it can be very unhelpful. I had a strange experience during one of my dreams the other day which I talk about in my video below – and this was the direct result of taking on board something that someone I didn’t even know said in a shopping queue!!! Your unconscious mind takes everything personally.

Funny – but sort of useful.

So this is another great reason for surrounding yourself with positive people and keeping your boundaries tight. if you surround yourself with mood hoovers, then you will potentially start to take on their beliefs.

Have you had any strange dreams – that you can tell me about – where your mind was taking something on that wasn’t meant for you.

Or did you start to question yourself as a result of eavesdropping on a conversation (intentionally or otherwise)?

Let me know

Dr Bridget

Digging Deep gets you Different Results

Do you feel as though you need to start digging deep?

Start digging

Digging deep

As Einstein said: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again and expecting different results”.

And I’m wondering if that’s what you are doing?

I’ve certainly done it often enough myself!

Sometimes we just need to STOP and ask ourselves whether the way we are behaving is getting us what we want in our life, our business or our career. If not there is often a deep reason for why we are continuing the behaviour and is often something along the lines of:

  • Protecting ourselves unconsciously
  • Keeping other people happy
  • Hiding
  • Not wanting to say we don’t think we are good enough

Watch the video below within which I discuss how to start changing your behaviour and asking yourself the deeper questions that may give you the answers you need. Once you know what the answer is you can start changing the behaviour consciously. If you are struggling, unable to ask the right questions or make the changes why not book a session with me? I can and will help you.

Think about the things that you seem to keep doing that aren’t helpful and ask yourself the question: “What’s the purpose of this behaviour?”. You’ll be surprised at what comes up.

If you are not sure how to use the answer and do something with it, give me a call on 01656 347027 or 07973635102 and access a free complimentary session.

Until next week – keep asking,

Dr. Bridget